As I sort through stats
on why I ask for the weekly text message - DeLightScope - to be supported or
sponsored, I wish to share with you a few insights.
I just read something on the net which said "The road to no-fear is scary." and it struck me how true that is.
Our youngest suicide
victim appears to have been around 6.
And we’ve had 10 recorded
as that – ten children under 10 years of age in the last 5 years. But more not
recorded that way – apparently it's been a practice of the coroner to list a
suicide as an accidental death in cases of young children.
Because it is just too
devastating for families to deal with the label ‘suicide’ alongside the already
devastating loss they are going through.
Being abused by someone with power over you
can easily create a situation where you believe there is no way out. And when
you are small, and frightened into submission with strength or threats, help
seems impossible.
So there are times when I
understand.
We have lost 2717 people
between July 2007 and Jun 2012 to suicide.
Bird flu or any other flu
is a total ‘walk in the park’ compared.
I want to talk more about
depression. We don't just have a problem with depression, we are good at it.
Here in New Zealand we
have a massive problem with happiness. And the need to cut down tall poppies or
rain on peoples parades. Having simple fun is sometimes still frowned upon as
if the party lights should be out and the black-out curtains pulled
firmly down.
But the war is over.
Peace is trying to invite
you in.
And yet we resist it.
Why?
Focusing on the
depression isn't uplifting and while it provides support - it isn’t the answer, all we are seeing is more
depression.
What we pay our attention
to becomes our reality. Our attitude IS everything.
What we dwell on is what we eventually dwell in.
To me, depression is
multilayered.
Sometimes it's a deep and powerful life crisis that brings grief.
It can be:
A powerful
sulk.
Chemical or hormonal
imbalances come into play.
Spiritual energies get
out of balance.
A willingness to
hold onto hurt, blame, guilt, shame and the ‘way things could have been.’
A refusal to take
responsibility and sometimes it’s avoidance of engaging with life.
And in some cases it can be an identification with the pain of humanity.
I’ve been in the ‘dangerzone’
and I know I was experiencing all of these things.
Sometimes it is a
multilayered life crisis.
One thing is true.
I have been happy when I
had very little.
Depression is not caused
by poverty.
It’s enhanced by it
perhaps.
Depression is caused by
pressure. Pressure to conform, to succeed, pressure from self, pressure from
society. Sometimes it’s caused by overload of being too chosen and too
responsible for everyone and sometimes it’s caused by not feeling chosen,
special or by being left behind.
Words cut and maim peoples
psyche.
Could you imagine for
example, being told you were stupid and ugly all your life?
Some of you have lived
through this.
You may still be carrying
the scars inside you. They can be removed.
When someone says ‘I love
you’ it’s the most amazing thing in the world. When they say ‘I don’t love you’
or ‘I love someone else’ it’s incredibly devastating. And when you had your
life all mapped out, it can have the effect of derailing your whole train.
That is a life crisis.
You are fully within your rights to have a melt down, but don’t – for God’s
sake as well as your own, and everyone else around you – don’t just
automatically tell yourself you are depressed. Words are powerful.
Humans have a right to
process emotion in any way necessary.
I never called myself
depressed, because I believed the power of the label was huge. Some people will
attach you to that and there you will stay.
People around me must
have realised I was, or at least suspected it as I walked around in a fog.
In cases where someone is
‘diagnosed’ with something – there have been misdiagnoses as well.
Get second opinions, self
medicate with gentleness as much as possible, ask ‘where am I hurting myself?’
How do I feel about this situation? that situation?, often people feel trapped
and it’s about taking personal power back. We think we have to be nice all the
time, and we only have to do our best. Sometimes someone else is energetically
leaning over us and that can be awful.
Oppression can feel like
depression. You are not as trapped as you think you are, but an oppressor will
have you disempowered enough to believe it. Ask.
Ask yourself – if I wasn’t
so scared, how would I be experiencing this?
And get energetic help if
you need it.
Everyone could do with an
energetic scrub. Imagine feeling as if all the layers of ‘stuff’ you have been
carrying around are cast off? You are lighter, freer and feel younger and more able to be you.
I work on clearing life
situations all the time. And the energy around them.
And you may not realise how
very simple that actually is – because we are led to believe things are hard.
We are the Kiwi’s – we have
a myth that says we are tough, resilient and we can struggle our way through
anything. If you are identifying with that, you are identifying with hardship.
The word struggle and it’s
similar friends can be struck from anywhere you use it in your vocabulary to
make your life instantly easier.
My friend Pryce told me a
little story a while ago, and I’ll share it.
He broke his arm or wrist
– I’m not sure which and the Doctor told him he would take six weeks to heal.
He was spending a lot of time training and was really challenged by this. He
likes to think he is tough and a whole lot of other things. And why not.
He made up his mind that
six weeks wasn’t good enough, and said “NO. I will heal my body in three.”
He did, and was back in
the gym fast.
His comment that sticks
with me is this… “It was then that I realised Winning is a form of magic.”
It’s true.
So simple. Which shows us
again, what we dwell on is what we ultimately dwell in.
He created his own
miracle.
It’s possible he could
have said two weeks. What else is possible?
When I was having my
children, as all Mums might, I came to a moment when all the birth horror
stories got me. I panicked a bit and then consciously decided that giving birth
was simple.
People do it and keep
working with their baby strapped to their backs. Why could that not be possible
for me? I could have an easy, short birth. After all – and I apologise here if
this is a bit much for the fainthearted – ‘what goes up, must come down’.
My experiences were both good. It's not the whole answer, but it's good to be open to this.
You create your world.
You really do. You have the power and if you feel like you don’t then you gave
it away, or someone took it from you. Most likely, believe it or not, just with
words.
If you are having trouble (having trouble is
the same as struggling) letting go, you can have your ‘aha’ moment about what
right you have to control the way someone else lives. You can have your ‘aha’
moment about what right they have to control you.
You can have your moment
of recognition about clutching the past and failing to see the incredible
present or the shining future because your hands are full of dust.
There is absolutely NO
MAGIC in holding old emotional pain. Come on.
Who does it serve? The
past is an idea in our minds.
Sometimes NO is the best
friend you could have.
When you say YES all the
time, people forget to notice you have needs.
YOU forget to notice you
have needs. After a while (and this may be once a month or more for the more
hormonal ones) something is triggered in you that says HEY!!!
'What about me? It isn’t
fair… I’ve had enough, now I want MY share…'
If you are a child of the
80’s you’ll remember the song and you may be singing...
If you can identify with
that in any way, it would be great if you bring life back to basics.
If you want ‘more’ – take
a look at what this more is. It’s my bet it’s not a thing, rather it’s a
feeling.
A feeling of wellness,
fullness, being loved.
We can eat all we like,
but if we are not spiritually full – and I don’t mean spiritually as in running
round constantly going to prayer meetings, churches or workshops, I mean – if our
spirit isn’t nourished - we are sometimes stuck. Lifeless, blocked. Call it what you like.
Ordinary people talk about
being in high spirits, low spirits, having broken spirits, we all have a spirit. And
there is a spirit of enterprise, a spirit of sportsmanship – some bad, some
good.
It's an essence.
Depression is a symptom
of a squashed spirit. I’m not saying you are broken.
Take your spirit out.
Listen to it. Smooth it out. What does it need?
I’ll give you a couple of
clues.
Gentleness is a biggie.
No nitpicking. No self
recrimination. The past is done, you can’t go back and change anything, but you
can change the way you view it and change the way you feel about carrying it
around.
Punishing yourself (your
spirit) with ‘could haves’ or ‘should haves’ or regrets is not going to get you
out of this sulk, or this horrible hole.
Good food, friendship and
sometimes that means you have to learn how to be a friend so you can make some,
self love – yes I know that is hard – but have a good listen, if the voice that
you use to nag yourself sounds suspiciously like your Mother – tell it to go
have a cuppa. She may have been programmed by the fear that was left over from
surviving a war. Post traumatic stress disorder – was/is a life crisis. Medicating
a person may appear to be necessary and sometimes, maybe it is necessary, but
soothing the spirit is crucial.
Soothe yours.
You are not what you have
been told. You are not bad. You are not ‘not good enough’.
So what if you have been
judged?
So what if you don’t conform
to someone’s narrow minded ideal of who you ‘should’ be?
Let them look after their
own dirty laundry before they try sorting yours. It’s your business who you
are. We don’t have the right to sit in judgement over each other – we really
don’t. There is not one person on the planet with your experience, your makeup,
physical, mental, emotional or otherwise.
If you have done the best
you could with what you had – it’s enough.
And there are days when
doing the best you could have included being a grump. So what?
You have been sometimes
hanging onto the planet by your fingernails.
It’s tough here. All you
were doing when you did that; was recognising it’s tough.
And getting through.
Sometimes you should have
a medal, but nobody tells you how amazing you are. Or you are so numb to the
fact you might be, that when they do – it doesn’t sink in. Because soothing
yourSelf is not a priority.
Staying upright is.
So my suggestion, if you
are finding it hard to stay upright, is actually to lay down. Imagine you are
rubbing balm on those scars. And breathe.
If you close your eyes
until they are almost shut and you can see little sparkly things darting about –
you will be looking at life force energy. It’s called Chi in China, Ki in Japan
and Prana in India.
Scientists call it orgone,
bio plasma and other names.
When you breathe in this
energy, you are breathing in a perfect, untainted energy that has the
universal idea in it. It’s not the same
as the energy you have contained in your body. This energy has all your ideas
in it. If they are not supporting your best benefit, they will be stopping you
from feeling great. This is a truth more than any other that you will probably
read today.
Breathing is good for you
– no kidding? You say…
If you will pardon the very obvious fact that
it supports your life - breathing with this knowledge of ki, chi etc and an intention to circulate wellness – has the
potential to also change your life.
I’ll say it’s words that are
a form of magic and if you have ever been ‘spellbound’ by a book, movie or
story – you will know exactly what I mean.
With each word you speak
about yourself, your life experiences, expectations etc – you are weaving the
magic story of you.
It’s the way you use them
that creates the magic and that is why the DeLightScope is such a powerful tool
for the upliftment of humanity. Because people need grace, kindness and gentleness and they need
their power back.
Make sure your magic
works for you in the best way possible.
And if you need me to help you do that - I'm here.
Deb x