When or if you struggle to get over things that are current or past, when things are bugging you constantly, when you have a resistance to what's going on around you, I highly recommend taking the following four steps:
1. Accept what's going
on. You don't have to like it, you don't have to condone it - it just is what
it is - accepting it, gives you a place to work from.
2. Release it. Just
consider how you feel while you are holding onto it. Understand the impact it
is having on your body or your mind and set it free, so it no longer controls
your emotions, or you day, or your life. Until you set it free, it's in charge
of you.
3. Surrender. Surrender
to what's around the corner for you. Surrender to the possibility that
something great is coming - after all, the sun comes after the rain and makes a
rainbow. And here's the thing - nothing great will come while you're convinced the world is full of bad guys and you're being a misery guts, cause let's face it, if it did show up, you might not notice. Surrender.
4. Enjoy. Do things you
love to do. Make a bucket list, Be gorgeous, fill in your spare time with
exciting new things that you would never have tried and enjoy the sense of
adventure and achievement that comes into your life as a result.
So in short - Accept,
Release, Surrender and Enjoy.
The key to getting over things is actually
quite simple.
The best treatment for
Life Ache is to Give it the A.R.S.E.
The hassle,
the worry, the stress and the baggage in your life is mostly being carried by YOU.
Only you can feel the pain of all of it. Only you really suffer. You can make someone else miserable by being a martyr, temporarily. Then - they will vote with their feet, they won't feel sorry for you, they will avoid you. They won't feel like the bad guy who drove you to suffering for the rest of your life, they will feel validated and lucky for escaping when they did.
The person or the parent who bullied you when you were young will probably or has probably been bullied themselves. Despite what you think or feel, your demonstrations of pain and suffering are affecting only you.
Only you can feel the pain of all of it. Only you really suffer. You can make someone else miserable by being a martyr, temporarily. Then - they will vote with their feet, they won't feel sorry for you, they will avoid you. They won't feel like the bad guy who drove you to suffering for the rest of your life, they will feel validated and lucky for escaping when they did.
The person or the parent who bullied you when you were young will probably or has probably been bullied themselves. Despite what you think or feel, your demonstrations of pain and suffering are affecting only you.
Life is for enjoying - no time to waste, get stuck in and go do it. And if revenge is your bag, the best revenge you can ever have is by having an absolutely fantastic life, goal setting and achieving, and hopefully at the end of it all you will realise you have found yourself and that revenge is a waste of time too.
And who do I think I am telling you all this stuff ?- aaah I've lived it.
You can't tell me I'm a do gooder who doesn't know what I'm talking about.
You wouldn't swap my journey for yours. I'm loving my life now though, and if I can do it, so can you - see you on the Bright Side of the Road.
Deb x
©Deb Wharfe 2012 www.debx.co.nz
And who do I think I am telling you all this stuff ?- aaah I've lived it.
You can't tell me I'm a do gooder who doesn't know what I'm talking about.
You wouldn't swap my journey for yours. I'm loving my life now though, and if I can do it, so can you - see you on the Bright Side of the Road.
Deb x
©Deb Wharfe 2012 www.debx.co.nz
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