When or if you struggle to get over things that are current or past, when things are bugging you constantly, when you have a resistance to what's going on around you, I highly recommend taking the following four steps:
Only you can feel the pain of all of it. Only you really suffer. You can make someone else miserable by being a martyr, temporarily. Then - they will vote with their feet, they won't feel sorry for you, they will avoid you. They won't feel like the bad guy who drove you to suffering for the rest of your life, they will feel validated and lucky for escaping when they did.
The person or the parent who bullied you when you were young will probably or has probably been bullied themselves. Despite what you think or feel, your demonstrations of pain and suffering are affecting only you.
And who do I think I am telling you all this stuff ?- aaah I've lived it.
You can't tell me I'm a do gooder who doesn't know what I'm talking about.
You wouldn't swap my journey for yours. I'm loving my life now though, and if I can do it, so can you - see you on the Bright Side of the Road.
©Deb Wharfe 2012 www.debx.co.nz