Needs? - Male Freedom vs. Female Security

A friend shared this from Abraham:
Here's what goes wrong: most men are really seeking freedom. We're (Abraham) teaching you the freedom you are seeking is the freedom from the bondage of resistance that is always self-imposed. But most men are looking for freedom.
 Most women are looking for security, security that they'll only find when they come into alignment with who they are. But they're looking for it through a partner.
 So she's looking for more security, which is making him feel less free, and he's looking for more freedom and that makes her feel less secure. And so that's the basis of most contention in most relationships. ~ Abraham Hicks


I Love Abraham. That is bang on. Many women take love where they can find it. They spend the rest of the time trying to jam some perfectly lovely man into the box and banging the lid down on it.
He gets speed wobbles trying to fight his way out, so she quickly sits on it and nails it shut. And he doesn't want to hang around? Go figure.
When an empowered gorgeous Goddess who knows she doesn't NEED a man shows up in a space with a gorgeous man who knows how to be a rock without being OWNED - then you got something going on. Beautiful.
I can only reference to my feminine experience of this and so I will. I used to be so scared my man would run away, that I wanted him to stay home. Guess what? He ran away. Did me (and you) a favour - because he set himself free to learn other things and made me rely on myself. A painful, beautiful, life changing gift. A transformation even. If he hadn't done that I wouldn't be doing what I am doing now. I'm grateful in the end. Standing back and looking at the big picture is beautiful.
I was a self imposed doormat that transformed and grew into a magic carpet.
I'm no love guru, but this much I do know. If you get it, before he runs away and you stop clinging, he suddenly gets the freedom he needs and he may not go. The kicker is - he will only get that if you work on yourself. It's not your job to work on him, it's your job to be the strong empowered Goddess you were born to be, creating your own magical life. If he goes, he is not yours and you have some situation or person coming that is much more suitable for you. Trust in that because if you keep your attitude upright it will happen. Bitching, bitterness and man hating will not bring you new love on any level above what you had, it simply reveals you didn't get the lesson and worse, you will very likely end up with the same guy just with a different 'suit'. (Yes I'm still speaking from experience)
It's nobodys responsibility but yours to make YOU happy.
You can be your own new love. Go plan some great things to do and instead of waiting by the phone, let it go to message.
And don't bag men. Or hang out with manhaters. Manhaters have a vibe all of their own and regularly take negative pleasure perpetuating their own myths by attracting womenhaters.
If a new relationship starts with, "my ex did this to me" and you meet that with a sad or angry story of your own, you have little more in common but pain and negativity.
Give all that a great big swerve, do some work on yourself and be grace filled and gorgeous.
You'll likely save yourself years of pain, possibly wrinkles, and maybe even money.

(c) Deb Wharfe 2012

Illness/Human Mind vs. Wellness/Divine Mind

When people tell me I'm amazing... I hope that they can accept the same praise. And I would offer these few points...

1. You are amazing. You may not have realised it yet, but I have and I can see it. Don't put me or anyone on a pedestal. The wind blows. You fall off. People get bitchy, you get lonely.
It's totally inappopriate for me considering 99% of what 'I' do is actually the Divine working through me. I will call myself a healer, because if I don't show up God doesn't come with me. But I am only an insignificant part of what I do. The healing is only possible because I am not responsible for it. My belief in or knowledge of the limitless power of creation, light and miracles and the willingness to hold a space for that to flow through is all that I need. If you don't think that you're as good as the next person or if you don't think you can do what I can - you have a flawed belief. (we can work on that)

Rumi wrote - 'Hundreds of thousands of impressions from the invisible world, are eagerly wanting to come through you. I get dizzy with the abundance.'

It's a truth.

Illness is an idea in Human mind - Wellness is an idea in Divine mind that only needs to register with somebody and be applied. And that can all be done etherically. And it is as simple as clicking your fingers or using your mind. 
Remember a Course in Miracles says 'there is no order of difficulty among miracles. No miracle is greater or smaller than another.'
It is only our limited perception that claims this.

2. Don't give me a label or put me in a box.
If anything I am a Deb. I'm a mix of Human and Divine and I have realised I am infinite. It took me long enough! I wish more people would.
I'm here to see that happens.
*There are not enough trees to build a box for infinite.

When enough of us realise we are infinite the world will know peace.

3. We really are just light. All you need to do to learn there is light within your body is to hold your eyelids firmly closed and wait the for sparkles/colour to show up. Therefore we benefit greatly when we illumine ourSelves. One day I hope we all understand how truly sacred it is to light a candle for ourSelves.

This is my truth. Consider it carefully - it may also be yours, and if it is - it has the power to set you free.

(c) Deb Wharfe 2012